Helping a Child with Sticky fingers

When a child becomes of age and understands the difference between right and wrong, it is the parents responsibility to teach their children and to be positive role models.  Children that have problems taking things that do not belong to them do it for many reasons.  Some children may take things because they feel the need to impress their peers. Others may do it because it makes them look brave.  Some may do it because they think it is fun because they were able to get away with it.  At times they may feel they can't ask for what they want because they might not get it.  Acting on impulse could be another factor surrounding sticky fingers.  The act of taking things could be attention seeking especially if the child is already suffering from other emotional difficulties. It is so important that when children are reprimanded for their actions that they are not insulted and labeled as a thief.  Below are some points that may be useful when helping a child overcome sticky fingers.

• Educate the child about morals, rules, laws and consequences
• Educate them about how their behavior affects others
• Make them return items they have taken along with an apology to the owner
  
• Let them know that their behavior is unacceptable
  
• Have them write out a behavior contract that includes not stealing but learning to ask
• Have them use thought stopping techniques example.. "It is not okay".
• Monitor the child's behaviors

If the behavior continues and is accompanied by other behavioral symptoms, it may be helpful to follow up with mental health services for further assessment of the issue.

Chikeitha Owens, LPC
Abundance of Hope Counselinng

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